I just finished reading “Always Hit on the Wingman” over the weekend and I’m excited to share my thoughts with you on the book! Several people who know me have given me the raised eyebrow as to why I would read this book since I’m in a relationship. Even my boyfriend questioned me about reading this subject matter and flipped through the book to try and get an idea of the contents. First off, Glamour was nice enough to send me a copy to read (Thanks!). Secondly, I can honestly say that anyone can read it and take away something from it, regardless of your relationship status!
Written by Jake, Glamour’s male dating columnist, this anonymous author offers 10 rules for getting the love life you want and let’s women know what men are really thinking in various situations. This is the first dating book I’ve read from a male perspective and I must say Jake is brutally honest for our own sake and he is anonymous for a reason. Being able to share his dating experiences in this book bring a sense of realness to the reader and the author. There have been several “Jakes” over the years for Glamour and we get to see some of their advice in the book too! I’ve actually tried one of the rules (To my boyfriend: don’t ask) and it’s amazing what the results have brought which is a win-win in the love game! For those who have read relationship books in the past, this is way different from the others and it’s nice to have a male perspective shed some light on the operations of guys.
It’s funny how as I read this book I had a few girlfriends tell me about their dating hang-ups and I started to quote a lot of what Jake was preaching! I’m no expert, but I felt like I had some newfound knowledge to share. The key things I took from this book are that women must be themselves, broadcast your personality, and someone will take interest. Don’t settle and be open to the guys that come into your life. If one doesn’t work out so what? Move on, stay strong and it won’t be long until a new experience comes your way.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, this would be a great read for women who need a refresher or lesson as to what makes love go round and how one can reach leaps abound in finding the one. The Jake who wrote the book has done just that, so he can tell you a thing or two. I don’t want to give too much away about the book, so purchase yours at Amazon and be ready to pass along the book to others – I’ve already got 3 on the waiting list and I’m sure there will be more.
Always trying to add more spice to my blog, I’ve decided to start a monthly series with some “he said, she said” commentary. I’ve teamed up with my good friend, Kyle (Cougar) Hjelmesesth who has style, flavor, and a sharp mind. We’ll disucss anything and everything in between that tickles our fancy. What a great way to start it off by talking about something we all love, relationships!
The act of getting engaged. Many women and men look forward to that amazing moment when that happens. That means planning a wedding and setting a date. How long should an engagement be? Each couple is different and they should decide amongst themselves the duration. So is a five year engagement too long?
I’ve never been engaged – however, I wouldn’t mind if my engagement was five years. Some may say there must be something wrong or why wait so long, but why not? Granted if there was a close relative that really wanted to see you married sooner than later or some circumstance where the engagement would have to be a short time frame (religion, baby, work, etc) that’s understandable. Society creates the idea that a relationship should be a certain length before you get engaged, and that an engagement should be a certain length. Who’s making the rules for your relationship?
I feel that the length of your engagement in no way determines the success of your marriage, or frankly anything else. What does it really mean to be engaged? Is it you have the urge to get married ASAP so that’s why you get engaged? It’s the period between your proposal and marriage and it’s what you make of it. Since I am open-minded to the idea of getting engaged and married it’s not a deal breaker if it doesn’t happen. I asked some of my friends who are single, married, in between relationships, confused or divorced the same question and the unanimous answer was no – just move it and do it. Am I the slow one or alone in thinking it’s OK?
I’m a big-time planner and maybe I need 5 years to plan the wedding so I don’t stress out. Or there’s the dream place to get married and it isn’t available until 5 years from now. Who knows? If and when the time comes and the question gets popped, maybe instead of saying the wanted answer I’ll respond with “Yes, are you open to the 5 year plan?”
The real question is would I still want to marry you if you waited for me for five years?! Just my two cents, but I don’t know if I could respect a woman who waited five years to marry any guy who had the balls to pop the question, and no follow through. Read more